Are you hungry?

Recently I held a 5-week group program, and we spent an entire session talking about hunger.

Hunger isn’t something we pay much attention to in our culture.

Food is available 24/7, we eat plenty, we eat regularly, and we eat for many reasons having nothing to do with hunger.

Are you hungry?

When was the last time you felt hungry?

I mean the type of hunger where your stomach growls, your belly contracts, noises can be heard by others, and you feel the strong urge to get food quickly.

Don’t assume you DID feel hungry recently. Really think about that question.

When did you last feel hunger?

Many of my clients who struggle with weight loss have a long history of dieting.

They’ve tried every type of diet in an effort to lose those unwanted pounds, and they’ve followed them well.

Those diets have told them exactly what to eat, what NOT to eat, and when to eat it.

And by listening to those diets, rather than themselves, they’ve lost the connection to their own body.

They don’t trust their body anymore.

They believe their body betrays them by packing on pounds no matter what they eat, making them miserable.

They believe their body is out of control.

They believe if they actually listened to their body, they’d never stop eating and blow up like a balloon.

They think their body works against them.

I get that. I lived that.

For more than a decade of my life I felt the exact same way.

But I learned you can’t expect to hate your body and distrust it’s signals, AND have it support you well in good health.

You CAN learn to trust your body again, just as you did before you learned not to.

Hunger is your body’s way of telling you when to eat.

And when you really listen to your hunger, it also tells you how much to eat and what to eat.


Most people just don’t listen

hungerDo I always listen to my body and only eat when I’m hungry? No.

But I AM aware when I’m not hungry and I choose to eat anyway.

And my weight is stable. I’ve found a balance that works for me.

However, if you’re wanting to lose weight and listening to your body is a new thing for you, I invite you to pay attention to your hunger and allow yourself to feel hungry as often as possible.

The main challenge with this approach, and why Americans don’t tend to pay attention to hunger, is that we eat for all kinds of reasons.

Physical hunger is not usually one of them

If you routinely eat only when you’re hungry, you must find other ways to address whatever you were using food for in the past.

  • Are you tired and stressed out?
  • Are you in physical pain?
  • Do you feel lonely?
  • Do you feel empty inside?
  • Are you yearning for some fulfillment?
  • Are you scared to feel whatever is lurking just below the surface of your awareness?


What are you REALLY hungry for if it isn’t food?

I encourage you to go on an exploration…of yourself.

Listen to your body.

Let yourself get hungry.

Let your body tell you how it feels.

What do you discover that surprises you?

What challenges arise?


Share your answers with me.

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I’d love to hear how it goes for you!


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