3 Tips to Stop Stress This Holiday Season

3 Tips to Stop Stress This Holiday SeasonAre you DREADING the holidays?

Is your life already so BUSY that the thought of doing holiday shopping, cooking large meals, and pretending to be happy when you feel like crawling into bed leaves you wishing you could hibernate until January 1?


One key to stopping the stress is identifying what makes you happy.  What do YOU want?

Often the holidays become about what others want or what society tells us to do. 

I suggest making this season about you!

You CAN have a stress-free holiday season…with a little planning.

Here are a few tips that help me and I think they’ll help you too.

Tip #1: Set aside 15 minutes that’s just for you. Write it on your calendar. Call it something wonderful like “Planning Fun” or “Tea with Me.”

During this time, brainstorm what you’d love to do this season.

What would be truly FUN to you?  

A cookie decorating party?  A night drive through a well-decorated lit-up neighborhood? Attending a holiday concert?

Get creative!

Tip #2: Make your list of seasonal to-do’s, then identify the ones you DON’T want to do…the ones you particularly dread.  Take those items OFF your list.

Cross off the tasks you do because you’ve done them every year.

You do NOT have to go to the annual neighborhood party. You do NOT have to take your kids to every event they’re invited to. You do NOT have to cook the dinner this year. 

Get someone else to help you if the tasks you dislike are necessary.

Maybe a teenager could run some of your errands one weekend.

Perhaps you can trade with a relative and offer to do their tasks you DO like.

And let this holiday season be about YOU, not what others think of you.

Let them think what they may. (Honestly, it’s none of your business.)

Meanwhile, you’ll feel happier.

Tip #3: Plan your gift-giving and shopping.

I recommend starting this in November, so if you haven’t done it already, do this now.

Yes, now.

The sooner you get this planning done, the easier it will be to shop, you’ll finish more quickly, and you’ll avoid those extremely stressful last-minute crowds.

3 Tips to Stop Stress This Holiday SeasonThis is the best thing I do every year, hands down.

I am often done with shopping in early December.

Having this task completed does wonders for alleviating stress!

Once you complete these tasks, SIT DOWN with a cup of gingerbread spice tea and put your FEET UP.

You deserve it for planning ahead, being proactive about enjoying the holidays, and honoring what YOU want most!

And please share your tips in the comments below!

May your holidays be full of love!



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  1. Great ideas, so true that other people often times put demands on us during this holiday season and it’s easy to forget what it is we want or need in all of this. Maybe some peace and quiet contemplation to appreciate the spirit of the season. Thank you!

  2. Wow! So happy to read this Alicia. Feels like you jumped into my head and expressed thoughts and feelings that have always been there but I haven’t articulated. I am receiving your tips as a tremendous self care gift that really hits home for me and I will certainly be carrying over into the new year. 👍😊💛

  3. Kristina Rogers says:

    Thanks Alicia for these reminders! It’s so easy to call into the holidays..glad to be reminded to make the holidays mine…so I can love them my way!!

  4. Great post Alicia!
    You know I am all about stress freedom. I love the idea of getting teens to run the errands.

  5. Thanks so much for the tips, Alicia! Helps to hear what you’ve done to make your holiday less stressful. I’m going to adopt several suggestions! Thanks again. Happy Holidays 🙂